dealing with grandma (alzheimers and uses a walker)

This is a place for me to vent about my frustrations and hopefully get advice.

Here are the facts:
My grandmother will be staying with my family for a few months. She is usually in the care of my aunt, but we are giving my aunt a much needed break.

My grandmother suffers from alzheimers (stage 5 I think)
She also has bad knees, wich makes her have to use a walker.
She is incontinent for some reason (just urine). She can't be trusted to remember to put those incontinence pads in her panties so it was decided to take all of her panties and replace them with adult disposable diapers (this happened over a year ago).

Just so you know, I have learned to hold in my emotions (for the most part) and I don't yell at her or anything like that.

-----now for the rants---


I wonder if her incontenence is partly due to her lazyness. I understand her leaking a little or just not making it to the bathroom in time (she gave birth to 6 children and she is slow moving due to her bad knees), but she sits there for hours without even trying to get up and make it to the bathroom. When she does go, her diaper is full (sometimes full enough to leak).
My mother and I are trying to get her to get up and go to the bathroom about every 2 hours. I understand her not being able to remember to try to urinate every two hours, it's hard for my mother and I to remember to remind her. ...but when you feel like you have to pee, why not get up and make your way to the bathroom. Even if you don't quite make it, at least you tried.

I would rather crawl to get to a bathroom than have to use a diaper. If I had a broken leg, I would hop or crawl or even drag myself to a bathroom instead of using a diaper. I'd rather crawl up a flight of stairs to make it to a bathroom just to avoid the $$COST$$ of disposable diapers.

I think she just doesn't care.